Happy Days

For some reasons (don't really know exactly what, I guess a mixture of everything that comes together in my life lately) I have been feeling very happy inside .. I guess, maybe because I came up with a moderate plan earlier this March and somewhat am on track.. and though of course many bills to pay but not really worrying about them since I prioritize what's important and share whatever I have now with people around me .. (now). Year by year plan is good.. I guess I just live as though tmr never comes.. and plan things for one calendar year only - and try to include people around me as many as possible.. including strangers and acquaintances.. and able to deal with even people who are not-so-nice sometimes - and still love them ha! After a while, you'll notice that everyone is indeed nice in their own ways, thats the beauty of it!.. Anyways back to the overall happiness thing, at the end of it, I am able to achieve the moderate and balanced goals I have set out to achieve.. life is good!

Tomorrow Will Be History

Just pondering last night over a mixed of events told by some friends and of course the problems surrounding them now.. my mind drifted and came to a conclusion, its really OK .. life isn't really the end of the world if you cannot be with the person you want to, or if you cannot trust the other.. because tomorrow will be history anyway.. We have seen and heard stories about how time heals, even for the physcially beaten .. why can't emotional wounds be healed? If it can be 'in the future', why won't we just shorten our misery, clear up our minds now and move on for all the better? For example, we met someone who then turned out to be the person whom we want to spend the rest of our lives with - its logical for us to forgive his or her past.. whatever has happened, had happened.. and we move forward in the hope that things wil be smooth, no cheating no lies.. and as we move on, we bumped into some cheats and lies and dissatisfaction.. at that time, it is happening, not the past yet, but the clock ticks! Soon it will be history!!! Think about it .. if so, then why can't we keep forgiving since the present will always be history .. after all we are all just human, with our flaws.. Do not worry about the bad things that's happening today for tomorrow will be history....

Life Is More Than Just 'U'

A happy life is a balanced life where we spend time caring and doing things for our Parents, Siblings, our little family (Spouse & Kids), ourselves (Me), GOD, Relatives, Friends, Acquantainces and Strangers .. not just about you, you, you ... if the whole world tumbles because you can't get what you want or be with the person you want to be with, and you couldn't care what's happening to people around you, let family and friends get hurt, create negative impact on others and tell ourselves we don't really care how others lead their life, then we pay TOO MUCH attention to ourselves... draw a pie chart and you will see if you have had a balanced diet! If you haven't got one now, its OK, start spreading your love! May take you 1 day? 1 month? 1 year? How about 3 years? or 5 more years? Need 10 years? How about 20 years? You'd be better off if you start now because some never even got started in their entire life even until death .. How much is enough? Check with the other party! You will know by getting feedback - its Communications 101. Let's try to share our time, love and care not just for ourselves and our other half but extend it in a more evenly manner, which eventually would make survival a more meaningful journey..

Blessings in Life

Many are suffering out there, much more torment that what we can do unto ourselves in our daily struggle for material and love, lets start couting our blessings for the every single day that is passing by. The only reason why we spend time on petty things in life, and dwell on petty differences is because we have the resources to do so.. so use your resources wisely, not on just any matters of the world, but matters that would change the lives of others in a positive manner.

The Power Of Prayer

I pray for those who cannot 'see' at any point in their lives - inc. myself (stubborn and so much resentment, unable to develop faith), I pray that you will be able to see the Truth one day and from there your suffering will end. Trust in the power of a prayer and you will see there's no need to keep pushing another human being to be able to see good things in life .. you can share, they can hear but they may not listen, they may even question you in return and consistently giving negative feedback, yet they have no solution as to how they can achieve happiness. Pray for them..

Self Destruction

Notice when you are facing some life situations, and when you start to isolate yourself esp from people who cared for you, stood by you all the time, and then take decisions in your own hands, that's when problem comes. When you start to feel everyone else around you seems no good, seem to have a problem, you even feel somewhat the same with people who may have stood by your side all along, you are heading for self destruction though it may seem like you're isolating for peace. When this happens, take a moment, step back and make sure you connect to family and buddies who do care for you. They may not express their concern or show you love the way you want them or envision them to be but with a good heart on their side (never want to see you fall) you cannot go wrong. Stick around them, buy the time, then you can avoid some real big damage in your life, emotionally, mentally or even financially. Saying is easy of course, even I myself, had gone through phases in life when I isolate myself and take decisions in my own hands .. perhaps for some, it's indeed a rough journey to take.. but for others who can 'see', it will be a less painful one. I pray for myself and others that I will remember .. no man is an island, and never to isolate myself from people around me and esp. those who care for me, appreciate their love and care for me irregardless of they way they show it, for without them I am never gonna be a survivor. Must truly learn to live in a community with people of all kinds of differences.. a balanced diet.

Do It Anyway!

A caption of Blessed Mother Theresa of Calcutta's writing, "Do it anyway", resounds this divine virtue. She said, "people are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, forgive them anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you. Be honest and frank anyway. The good you do today, people will forget tomorrow, do good anyway. You see in the final analysis, it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway"....

Thanks Sol for the article!

Beyond An Eye For An Eye

Its important to go BEYOND an eye for an eye. Surely we have friends who don't treat us the way we want them to, even family and loved ones but can we go on just doing things for them only if they do the same for us? It's a never ending story. The solution is to always remember we have to set a good example IRREGARDLESS of how others are - how lousy we may think they are, how mean they have been to us, how unhelpful they have been, how they have not 'been there' for us.. It really doesnt matter because if they are making these mistakes and therefore we do the same to them e.g. if you're not there for me why should I be there for you, then we're heading to the evil road - the darkside, training outselves to be like one of them. Most of the time we won't realize it and just keep doing that. So the key is Break This Cycle! Do good acts and set good examples. It tough surely, esp you have someone treating you bad and you keep treating them well, wondering 'life isn't supposed to be this way', but trust me, if you do this long enough, you will feed your soul with the greatest nutrition you can ever obtain in this world for a better you.. over a long run, we are heading towards happiness..

Christmas Party 2005

Memo about the Office Christmas Party this year:

Checked with Guam Tropical Dive Station, which offers a tour called Scooba Roo for tourists. We can charter a boat from them and it is available both days 12/17 (sat) and 12/18 (sun) 2pm or 4:30pm. Activities offered: Banana boat, kayaking, snorkeling, fishing, dolphin watching, BBQ (grill/utensils provided but you must bring your own food & drinks). Family members are invited. For those who are single, you can invite a guest.

- Not bad, I love the idea!

Good? Keep It

If its something good, just keep it, nothing more. Don't because of your past you alter the good values that you know are good.. We want to be better from worst and not bad to worse. Continue to justify reasons why you should to be worst off, cultivating all the negative values, just to protect from being hurt again? Then I guess, in the end, we just have to accept the consequences that comes along with it .. and we know we are building and nurturing a 'negative' u.. And if others want to change for the better, why not? No need to be too critical and dwell over their past that they haven't been so good. Rejoice and be happy for them no matter how critical they had been!

Feeling Good

Today, yet another day, and just sort of woke up feeling good.. can't think of any particular reason but looked around, saw LG & ANA, just felt very blessed to have them in my life and to be able to do things for them and grow old with them.. Thought of my parents too and am happy I have been in touch with them and taking care of them with the resources and constraints that I have, doing my best .. infact, lately been feeling good overall, despite the sore throat (my own fault! too much chips) but looked around and realize I am on the right track, focusing on more important things in life compared to, a decade ago? Okay, who doesn't grow up right - after so many years? Hehe .. at least I am moving on! Not complaining too much about things and people around me.. infact since a year or two ago, (maybe three) I have constantly reminded myself to see the best in others and always wanting to remember, practice makes perfect!! Sure I am not perfect, just another human with human flaws, but can always be a better human as the clock ticks!

Saying Stupid Things

Observe and think about it sometimes.. We all know sometimes people say stupid things, say things they don't mean, and still cont saying them, hurting people around them... Rather than taking it harshly and bad becomes worst.. why not ponder the source of it... Pple say stupid things when you make them defensive, this is logical ..so what next? We can't go on forever blaming them.. how about start our conversation well.. take preventive steps. Okay, this time, the conversation went ugly, nevermind, let it go. How about in the future, the very next time you have the opportunity to start a conversation? Plentiful .. yes, and remember to start the conversation right .. warm and friendly.. stand side-by side, pat his or her back a little, you can't go wrong...

Acknowledge Our Weaknesses

As humans we have our own strenghs and weakenesses, if we choose to ignore our weaknesses and try to be smart at what we are not good at, we only invite ourselves troubles ... we don't need to go head-on with our weaknesses and that doesn't mean deny them either .. I truly believe in the SWOT Analysis - but this technique I came to know of it through the business course, but seriously we have to understand our own strengh and weaknesses and face them! So, saying (acknowledging) your own weaknesses isn't about looking down at yourself, knowing and being aware and understanding the other's weaknesses isn't about looking down at that person.. I guess some of us know that too, I am sure! You can only deal with your weaknesses if you acknowledge its existence ... For those who don't, it only gets worst ....