Created To Be His Help Meet - God's Gift

Yet another good time with JLT and ANN - Chapter 1: God's Gift. I really enjoy spending time with them. Feeling so much at home and we get to talk in Cantonese too! We tried going through Chapter 1 since the last session, we went all out for hours sharing about our own personal experiences, everyone's got their juicy story to tell! Well, this time too, we did the same! Except we did pull out the important parts of the message and here I would like to highlight some of my favourites - and not to mention, having to put them into practice. I also shared with them how tough it is for me to 'suck it all in' and 'submit' and be that 'suitable helper' because of the many legitimate reasons I may have .... and so the list goes on. But that's not quite the right focus, and therefore, I trust in God that if this is His will, and to know I was designed for a specific purpose, then let me be humble and play that role well.

Lessons Learned - Chaper 1:
1. You don't just marry "the right man" and live happily ever after. You were created to be in the marriage as a help meet when Lord God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him... (Gen 2:22) - well I had to admit this but honestly deep down eventhough I know I may not get the lovey-doveyness found in fairy-tale movies, I would still like to have gotten married to a man who would be there for me, give me TLC, take care of me, live under the his wings, say nice things to me, do nice things for me ---- the list goes on! Guess, I have misunderstood! Time to stop dreaming!
2. God made Adam a help-meet - and I even found in the Malay translated Bible, the word literally means 'penolong'! -- wow, all my life... I never ever think of getting into marriage with this perspective in mind! I'd say, esp HB wants me to work, and I have to take care of all the home affairs and my little girl - perhaps you could 'help-me' instead of me being a 'help-meet'???? I guess, I was wrong again!!!
3. The purpose of my existence is to full a need of being a helper suited to my husband, by nature, equipped with every ways to be his helper and inferior to none AS LONG AS YOU FUNCTION within your created nature i.e. do what you're "DESIGNED" to do, not to seek personal fulfillment parallel to him - wow, yet another powerful message slapped into my face! What have I gotten myself into all these years thinking of equality, independence etc .. perhaps I can blame the media, society and surrounding and/even up-bringing???! OK - time to move on and not be blameful to others, but rather focus on fixing the contaminated mind and soul! This I need to brainwash myself for sure!
4. When you are a help meet to your HB, you are a helper to Christ - see, yet yet another powerful message. First I never really gotten to know Christ, let alone to take Him or his messages seriously .. but now that I put effort in submerging myself into God's word and learning more and more about God - how much more happiness can I get to know that helping my HB is also being a helper to Christ! Sure I wanna do it!
5. Me, the Help Meet - A Gift?? - For sure I never thought of myself as a gift .. and if I were a gift, surely I want to be that nice, great precious gift that meets the needs of the owner. The question was 'If God created a special women, perfectly suited to be your husband's helper, would you be that women?' -- Yet I never ask myself that question. But my answer is of course, I would like to be that women .. and guess what? If you ever presented a gift to someone, you will know its unconditional, and it even if you or others think they may or may not deserve it, it would have still been a very good gift, something that would make the receiving party happy. I never did think of myself as a gift, and what more, to function as a gift that would make HB happy - but now that I know this, I should help preserve this gift for him! Though so not very easy esp I can imagine waking up earlier than him in the morning, sleeping later than him in the night, and he doesnt wake up a little earlier to help much in the morning - could I still wake up in the morning, be that nice little happy gift!!? Challenging!